Pinned Family pressure around divorce — what's working, what isn't

For South Asian folks, divorce often isn't just about the marriage — it's about extended family, community, sometimes faith. What's been the most helpful thing in setting boundaries with family while going through this? What conversations are you still avoiding?

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What worked for me — picking ONE family member I could be fully honest with, and letting everyone else stay in their own version of the story for a while. Saving the bandwidth was the only way I made it through last year.

Adding what I see in sessions — the family members who push hardest to "fix it" often haven't dealt with their own grief about the marriage they thought they had. The pressure is rarely just about you.