Pinned Has EMDR helped anyone with post-divorce intrusive thoughts?

EMDR comes up a lot in trauma therapy after divorce. If you've tried it, what was the experience like — and how many sessions in did you notice a change? Also curious about CBT and somatic alternatives if EMDR wasn't for you.

Counselor here — EMDR is well-suited to specific traumatic memories but less so for diffuse post-relationship anxiety. If the intrusive thoughts are more like "why did I miss the signs" looping than a single memory replaying, somatic or CBT approaches often land better. Worth screening which subtype is yours.

Quick housekeeping from the mods — personal experiences with EMDR are very welcome, just remember replies here aren't a substitute for advice from your own clinician. Carry on, this is a good thread.

10 sessions in. The replaying-the-bad-conversations loop was the first thing to go quiet. Worth finding someone EMDR-certified, not just "familiar with" it.